Don't understand? Let me explain.
We all have our different groups of friends. Most commonly, it's the friends at school/work/group, and the real friends, the friends we hang out with, tell our secrets to, the people whom we would do anything for. For most of my life, I mainly had friends from the first group. Friends from the second were hard to come by. I've met people who could have gone from the first group to the latter, but the way my life went made it impossible, or extremely difficult.
In 9th grade, for the first time in a long time, I met people who (at the moment of writing, this following sentence is under question by the author) are definitely people who are of the second group. But then my time with them was cut short when I switched high school. Earlier this year, I started talking to one of them again, the one who I felt most connected to. Now, we've become better friends, and I've befriended a few of her friends who I didn't know before.
In the school I go to, I'm not sure which group my friends belong to. I know some who definitely belong in the first group, but the rest I'm not sure where they lie. I can think of a few who don't belong in the first group, but at the same time I'm not sure if they go into the second, but more like somewhere in the middle. Or maybe they are in the second, but they're not the kind of friends I'm looking for.
That's what this is about. The friends I do have, I'm not sure about. But at the same time, I don't know where else to go. When I say they might not be the kind of friends I'm looking for, I mean that I don't feel so close to them as I should, or at least as I need them to be. It's so confusing.
But, for sure, without doubt, I know there is one friend who is of the latter group. I can trust her, and we work so well together. I don't mean in a romantic way, I'm happy being friends, and it's not like it's a problem. I really am so happy that she's my friend, and I know that she feels the same way about me.
The problem that there is, though, is that I'm not sure if the kind of friendship we have is the kind I should have in others. I'm not saying that in the "I shouldn't feel about other people the way I should about her" kind of way, but more like,
shouldn't I feel that way about other people?
I know I'm not the only person who feels this way, but I know that no one around me feels that way, so now... I dont' know what to do, or how to feel. A part of me feels so lonely knowing that there's only one friend that I have that I might actually, truly consider a friend. But then the other part of me thinks I'm just overreacting to how I feel, and I should calm down.
What the
fuck am I supposed to do!? Why the hell does this have to be so hard? Why can't I just be happy with what I do have and just shut up!?
Why won't anyone help me?